My Wisdom’s at Age 23
Updated: Aug 8, 2021
Last year I posted my Wisdoms at age 22 after having read This is Day One: A Practical Leadership Guide by Drew Dudley. I received an overwhelmingly positive response that I was not expecting and was completely humbled by it. So as I turn another year older today, I’d like to make this a tradition I continue to do; looking back on the experiences that I have had each year, through the good and the bad, the highest of highs, to the lowest of lows. By no means do I think I know everything, or do I really consider myself wise, but I like to think that some of the experiences that I have had, I reflected on, grew from, and am wanting to share the clarity I have gained. Many of these have come from long chats with friends, from books, heard on podcasts, and everywhere in between, but have all resonated with me in some way or another. I hope you enjoy:
Always have snacks whether you’re just going out for a few hours, or multiple days, hangry is a real emotion.
Constantly learn: through books, podcasts, documentaries, courses, or other mediums.
Be genuinely interested in others. Learn and remember people’s names and listen intently when they talk.
Know and understand the power of common courtesies like please and thank you.
Life is too short to settle. Chase after your dreams.
Use social media to fuel a positive life. Unfollow people who don’t increase your happiness.
Support local businesses.
Go out of your way to help people, whether strangers, friends, or family. It may not be reciprocated, but it will be remembered.
Be kind to everyone you meet. Especially people working customer service jobs. Put your phone down for all of three minutes and just chat to them.
Set boundaries. Set boundaries on what you can say yes to in order to still give yourself time to do all of what you have already committed to and firmly say no to what you cannot take on. A firm no, but with an ask me next time approach goes so much farther than saying maybe and cancelling last minute. (I’m still working on this).
Ask for help when you need it, but your pride doesn’t want the help. Your mind will thank you later.
Set yourself up to be financially successful. Maybe that means saving $5 a week for an emergency fund right now while you work less financially abundant jobs, just start somewhere.
Measure experiences. If I buy this item(s), what will I have to give up? A one night stay in my favourite hotel, in my favourite city? A dinner out with a friend I’ve been meaning to catch up with? These experiences will always be more worthwhile than that item you’ve been wanting.
Relationships are fragile, nurture the ones that fill you up.
Take care of yourself, mentally and physically.
You are far more impactful than you can ever imagine.
Learn the love languages of both the romantic and non romantic relationships in your life. Not everyone gives and receives love the same way.
Be firm about your beliefs.
Set expectations clearly, both in personal and professional relationships.
Learn to communicate the easy and the tough conversations.
There is no need to force anything, conversations, relationships, friendships, jobs, or love.
Don’t stress over what you cannot control.
You are in charge of how you react to how someone makes you feel.
Always hear both sides of the story, you may not agree with both, but at least you can try to understand where the other person is coming from.
Check in on your friends and family more than you think you need to. You may not know all of what is going on, but reaching out may help them more than you could ever know.
Stop stigmatizing mental health. It is equally as important as your physical health.
Life is too short to work a job you do not love wholeheartedly. Find a career and work environment that excites you, despite the bad days.
Reduce your impact on the environment, look into offsetting your footprint while travelling, reducing your plastic usage, or learn more about minimalism and try to incorporate it into your life.
Limit your choices in life. We become overwhelmed when too many options are presented and begin to shut down. In a day and age where everything is at our finger tips, you don’t need to test out all 20 of the different fridges that are for sale.
Communication is both the problem and the solution.